For Your Family: Foster Expansion

If you have family, when is the last time you sat down to have a frank discussion about finances, your money, and what you value?

So many times families fail to have these conversations and the result is a group of people living in a dream world.  They conjure up fantasies about going on extravagant vacations but have no real financial stability to support those fantasies.  Instead of explaining that Disney World is not in our price range, we pull out the credit cards or go get new ones and make it happen.  We operate as though the money to pay for it will just materialize out of thin air.  In my world, that only happens for bankers.  They are the only ones creating money out of thin air.  For our families, most of us are working jobs and trading our time for money.  

Having those frank discussions about finances, money and what you value are what’s needed to get to the place where you can go on the vacation without tying a debt noose around your neck and jeopardizing your family’s ability to function.  Who said you have to take extravagant vacations every year?  Where did that idea come from?  Could it be television programming?  Internet travel deals?  Sit down and talk about the real costs of taking trips.  Make a list and be certain everyone understands how long it would take to generate the money for such a trip.  Maybe it’s a year.  Maybe it’s five years!  Does your family even have $1,000 in the bank for emergencies like a car breaking down?  Are you doing anything to get yourself off the hamster wheel of corporate production?  Can you live beyond each paycheck?

The topic of this blog is about fostering expansion.  One of the ways we expand and grow is by facing the reality of our situations in life and by making decisions and taking actions that deal with What Is.  Then we can make a way for what is desired.  So many people got caught up in ‘The Secret,’ but one of the key ideas left out of that phenomenon was the simple fact that you must take right action.  Yes, everything is created first in mind, using your powerful imagination and intuition but you must take right action to make any of those ideas a reality.  There are no short cuts in life.  They just seem that way at the time.  Later you realize the full price that must be paid.  The credit card bills do come due.

Expanding your mind by looking at what truly is in your world can be quite liberating.  It may also feel like sitting on a razor blade as Tibetan guru Chogyam Trunkpa described it.  But that experience of dealing with what is right in your face gives you a chance to just be with what is and acknowledge it.  Then if it’s not what you want, insight can come as to how you might change it.  If you don’t face it head on, you never have this opportunity to open up and see what there is to see, feel what there is to feel and know what there is to know.  None of that is possible until you sit on that razor.

A stay-cation can be a lot of fun and it’s definitely cheaper.  Maybe you can’t even afford a stay-cation.  What is possible for your family?  What could you do together that would foster family ties?  Maybe it’s a tank of gas to go visit a long distant relative.  Maybe it’s having everybody over for Sunday brunch and dinner with games.

Give your family a gift of expansion as we move into these wonderful summer months in North America.  Show them you really care for their wellbeing by having a frank discussion about what you value and how that relates to your money and finances.  No one can have true wellness and graceful aging if you’re saddled with debilitating debt and the worry and dis ease that comes with it.

For more on wellness and graceful aging, come visit me at JaniceWoody.com and here’s to your Lifetime Health!

Budding Opportunities: Tend the Garden of Your Mind

“What a difference a day makes.  Twenty-four little hours.”  When you give yourself time to digest life, it goes down so much easier.  I’m having a health challenge and as always I am reminded to tend to my thoughts.  How easy it is to forget that we decide which thoughts to entertain on a daily basis.  It seems that they just show up sometimes as uninvited guests and we can’t do anything about that.  WRONG!  We must tend our thoughts as carefully as we tend our gardens.  What gets planted will grow.  If you plant watermelon seeds, you won’t get apples.  Seems kind of obvious, but many times we find ourselves entertaining thoughts of despair about our health and then wonder why things seem to be getting worse.

Yes, we have to be realistic and face whatever presents itself.  Once we’ve acknowledged it, then we decide how to think about it.  If the automatic response is panic, doom and gloom, then we find ourselves in the negative death spiral to hell.  The negative thoughts come pouring in and start to overwhelm the system.

However, there is another way to tend the garden of your mind.  Face reality.  What is actually happening?  Much of it will exist only in the mind.  Then adopt a perspective that leaves you options.  It’s amazing how just having a choice can lift your spirits and raise your energy to see the possibilities in life.  It’s very easy to decide that everything is falling apart.  But what if it isn’t?  What if you can make a different choice?  What if you can see things from a different perspective, one that has you winning for a change?  Or at least gives you a fighting chance?

The way this life works is we have dark clouds and rain, then we get sunshine and flowers.  Neither is good or bad.  It simply is.  The thought seeds we’ve planted determine what sprouts in the fertile soil of our minds.  If we welcome the clouds and rain, we have a perspective that this will bring juicy watermelons.  If we welcome the sunshine, we enjoy a walk in the park or wandering in our garden picking the sweet fruit.  What we harvest is what was planted.

If we are planting negative thought seeds, the harvest will be disappointing at best.  What we will have to eat will only irritate the system and make life stressful, dark and cloudy like the sky on a rainy day.  Plant seeds that empower you.  Plant seeds that give you options.  Plant seeds that feed and nourish your soul.

The dark clouds always part and then there is sun.  “What a difference a day makes.  Twenty-four little hours.  You’ve got the sun and the flowers where there used to be rain.  What a difference a day makes.  And the difference is you!”

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Take the First Step

Stay Active for Life is the theme for March at Janice Woody’s Lifetime Health.  Last week we talked about activity being a mindset and the fact that everything is created twice, first in the mind, then in our outer reality.  Staying active requires the most profound yet simple commitment.  We must take the first step.

Taking the first step sets us up for dramatic change.  Change is something humans resist.  The first step puts the body out of balance, necessitating the next step.  We are no longer sedentary.  We’ve upset the status quo and many times our ego will go into a raging fit about how this is inconvenient and just too big a commitment.  “I don’t even have 10 minutes to take a walk.  I’m just too busy.”

For someone who is overweight or obese, this kind of struggle may seem obvious.  But what if you’re young and active right now.  You never imagine a time when you won’t be this way.  That is where the challenge lies.  When we are living an active lifestyle, we tend to take it for granted.  We assume it will always be that way.  Sometimes we’re not present to our lives.  We may go for a run or go to the gym every week because that’s our routine.  We don’t give it a lot of thought.  We may not even know why we started in the first place.  Maybe it became a habit because of an old boyfriend or girlfriend.  I challenge you to question why you are so active right now if this is your reality.  Think about your WHY.  Knowing and understanding it, may save your life one day.

Life happens in a flash.  Our daily routines can be upset in an instant by a bad decision, people in our lives, health challenges, etc.  Before you’re aware of it, your world is turned upside down and what was once an active lifestyle changes into a stress filled, stationary existence.  It only takes a few days for some people.  Their healthy pattern is broken and they find themselves making different lifestyle choices which don’t involve much movement.

I’ve seen this in my own life.  I used to walk 3 miles every day and bike and swim.  Then I changed my work life and found myself sitting in front of a computer monitor from early morning to late into the afternoon.  I told myself this was necessary if I wanted to be “successful”.  Did it take its toll on my health?  You bet it did.  I started to gain weight, slowly at first, but then it really started to pack on.  I had always enjoyed being active, but just didn’t realize how much I needed to make it a priority for my health.  Here’s the part that’s really annoying, it took me longer to get back my stamina and previous level of strength and agility.  Whenever I slacked off, it would always take longer to come back physically.

Stay active for life.  Take the first step.  If you’re already there, take the second step and be present to why you’re doing it, how it feels and why it’s important to you.  Don’t take your life for granted.  It’s precious.  Every moment is precious.  If you get this, please like it and share it with your friends.  Visit me at JaniceWoody.com and sign up for a class or coaching to help you on your path of Wellness and Graceful Aging.

Here’s to your Lifetime Health!

Laughing Medicine for Graceful Aging

I love my grandma always. She taught me many things about life and living. One of the main things she taught me was how to laugh. She had a full belly laugh that was infectious and she laughed often. I can still hear her laugh. She laughed well into her eighties.

Laughter is the best medicine. It changes your vibration and lifts everyone around you. Dr. Bernie Siegel raved about how laughter helped him fight back cancer. Who has ever been able to remain sour after hearing a baby laugh? On the darkest rainiest day laughter can brighten any room.

“Find a laughter workshop, or think back on some very funny things that happened to you and others in your life—laughing at least every two or three hours each day will instantly give you a break from feeling emotionally down.  When we laugh, we cannot maintain a morose outlook at the same time.” Dr. Bernie Siegel

Laughing everyday is the key to wellness and graceful aging. Laugh and celebrate your freedom!

Here’s to laughing with ya!