For Your Family: Foster Expansion

If you have family, when is the last time you sat down to have a frank discussion about finances, your money, and what you value?

So many times families fail to have these conversations and the result is a group of people living in a dream world.  They conjure up fantasies about going on extravagant vacations but have no real financial stability to support those fantasies.  Instead of explaining that Disney World is not in our price range, we pull out the credit cards or go get new ones and make it happen.  We operate as though the money to pay for it will just materialize out of thin air.  In my world, that only happens for bankers.  They are the only ones creating money out of thin air.  For our families, most of us are working jobs and trading our time for money.  

Having those frank discussions about finances, money and what you value are what’s needed to get to the place where you can go on the vacation without tying a debt noose around your neck and jeopardizing your family’s ability to function.  Who said you have to take extravagant vacations every year?  Where did that idea come from?  Could it be television programming?  Internet travel deals?  Sit down and talk about the real costs of taking trips.  Make a list and be certain everyone understands how long it would take to generate the money for such a trip.  Maybe it’s a year.  Maybe it’s five years!  Does your family even have $1,000 in the bank for emergencies like a car breaking down?  Are you doing anything to get yourself off the hamster wheel of corporate production?  Can you live beyond each paycheck?

The topic of this blog is about fostering expansion.  One of the ways we expand and grow is by facing the reality of our situations in life and by making decisions and taking actions that deal with What Is.  Then we can make a way for what is desired.  So many people got caught up in ‘The Secret,’ but one of the key ideas left out of that phenomenon was the simple fact that you must take right action.  Yes, everything is created first in mind, using your powerful imagination and intuition but you must take right action to make any of those ideas a reality.  There are no short cuts in life.  They just seem that way at the time.  Later you realize the full price that must be paid.  The credit card bills do come due.

Expanding your mind by looking at what truly is in your world can be quite liberating.  It may also feel like sitting on a razor blade as Tibetan guru Chogyam Trunkpa described it.  But that experience of dealing with what is right in your face gives you a chance to just be with what is and acknowledge it.  Then if it’s not what you want, insight can come as to how you might change it.  If you don’t face it head on, you never have this opportunity to open up and see what there is to see, feel what there is to feel and know what there is to know.  None of that is possible until you sit on that razor.

A stay-cation can be a lot of fun and it’s definitely cheaper.  Maybe you can’t even afford a stay-cation.  What is possible for your family?  What could you do together that would foster family ties?  Maybe it’s a tank of gas to go visit a long distant relative.  Maybe it’s having everybody over for Sunday brunch and dinner with games.

Give your family a gift of expansion as we move into these wonderful summer months in North America.  Show them you really care for their wellbeing by having a frank discussion about what you value and how that relates to your money and finances.  No one can have true wellness and graceful aging if you’re saddled with debilitating debt and the worry and dis ease that comes with it.

For more on wellness and graceful aging, come visit me at JaniceWoody.com and here’s to your Lifetime Health!

For Your Family:  Set the Example

If you’re not living an amazing life right now, what would it take to change that?

What more is possible?  What would an amazing life look like for you?

Many times people will ask these questions and immediately move into a mode of, well I have to … followed by striving for some goal, some thing that, if only I could get that, I would be happy.  What if you already have an amazing life and you’re just not tuned into it?  What if everything going on around you is the greatest blessing in life?  Would you see it?  Would you have the discernment to recognize an amazing life?  As humans we always strive for something.  It’s part of our nature.  We are never satisfied and always looking to cure boredom.  Many of us drown our lives in entertainment because we are terrified of being bored.  To what else could you attribute the mindless checking of texts and email or scrolling through Fakebook or watching TV for hours on end looking, searching for something, anything to lock onto to make ourselves feel “connected.”

My amazing life is right in front of me.  I have work I love.  I have family and friends I love.  I have a healing body I love for its resiliency and strength.  All of these things are gifts from the divine put here for my enjoyment.  I’m connected at all times.  I can never not be connected for that is the nature of the Universe.  It is one song.  I seek to share my gifts so they can multiply and flourish.  Then when I ask that question, what more is possible, I start to get insights into how I can share more of me.  This makes me a blessing to others and more good things flow into my life.  And this helps me vibrate on a frequency of love and gratitude which brings more good things.

Oh, but what about the “bad” things?  Do you think they just stop coming?  Of course not.   Both the good and bad things are like thoughts we have when we meditate.  They come up, we examine them and then we release them and return our focus to what we want to experience.  We do this over and over, today and tomorrow.  We can choose to live in today and tomorrow, always coming back to our core focus, our amazing lives.

What is your amazing life?  Who’s in it?  Do you appreciate them?  When is the last time you told them how much you appreciate their presence in your life?  What would your life be like without them?  People and relationships with people are the most important things in our amazing lives.  All of the things we strive to get can be replaced.  But what happens when you lose people, relationships?  Whether they were good or bad, it leaves a scar, an empty place.

 I choose to share my amazing life with people who appreciate me and love to receive my gifts.  That’s all.  Let me know about your amazing life and how you share it.  Are you setting the example for everyone around you?  Come see me at JaniceWoody.com where I show people how to live an amazing life of wellness and graceful aging.  Here’s to your Lifetime Health!

 

For Your Family – Feed Others Good Food

Many of us prepare meals every day for ourselves and people we love.  What are you feeding them?  When I talk to people about their diets, this is what I hear.

“Oh, we eat really healthy for the most part.” Or “I’m on a diet (paleo, Atkins, “low carb”, Zone, South Beach, Nutrisystems).”  You get the idea.  And my favorite – “I’m on a diet an it’s working.” 

Of course it’s working!  You can lose weight on any diet.  I often tell my clients, you can lose weight on Beyonce’s cayenne pepper lemon juice diet.  The problem is not with the diet.  The problem lies in the thought pattern that led to the diet.  That thought that says, I’ll fix it quick with this diet. Then I can fit into that dress for my daughter’s wedding.  Or maybe I can get some love if I drop a few pounds.  Maybe then she will go out with me.  Or, my doctor said I need to lose 20 pounds.  He said I should be on a low carb diet.  I would love to kill that term “low carb” but I don’t believe in PC speech so I’ll leave that one alone.

What if we’re all delusional?  I’m being kind here because the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again expecting different results!  How many times have you heard yourself saying any of those previous statements?  How many diets have you tried?  What happened when you came off the diet?  YES!  You gained back the weight!  Sometimes it was a little, maybe a few pounds, but then over time, you got it all back and more.  

I know what I’m talking about.  Back in the day, I went on a diet and lost 40 pounds.  But the story continues …  with all the elation over succeeding and making my goal.  Whoop! Whoop!  Then, the day of reckoning came.  My environment changed dramatically.  I went from working at home (a controlled environment) to working in an office with a bunch of junk food nazis.  Every day they brought in donuts, chimichangas, tamales, cakes, pizza, ribs.  Oh and did I mention this was a high stress working environment.  That’s a part of what was driving this incessant need for fat, salt and sugar.  At first, I was strong.  I brought my lunch every day and just rushed past the kitchen.  But you know the deal.  Someone would come by my cubicle and offer me a donut.  They would come by and say ooh, you need to try these tamales.  They are SOOOOO good.  Tamales, a particular addiction of mine at the time, were calling my name.  Janice Janice Janice!  I went down for the count.  When I regained consciousness, I was 40 pounds heavier.  Oh, I seem to remember losing that 40 pounds somewhere.  Well I found it!  Dam it!

Does this story sound vaguely familiar to you?  Yes?  This is the life story of America, the BIG, the BOLD, the Beautifully FAT!  And it all started with our thinking.  That’s where everything starts.  Remember everything is created twice, first in the mind, then in our physical reality.  Big fat butts don’t just materialize out of thin air.  We start out with fat butt thinking.

Now you may be thinking, where is she really going with this?  The title of this blog is Feed Others Good Food.  Yes, and there is a point to my rambling.  So many times the excuse I hear is this. “My husband won’t eat healthy food.” “You don’t understand.  My kids are really picky eaters.” “If it takes longer than 10 minutes, we’re going out to eat.”  These are all excuses to feed your loved ones garbage.  But guess who’s sitting at the table with them.

When you decide you’ve had enough of losing the same 20 pounds over and over again, you will make a lifestyle transformation of epic proportions.  The people who get to come along for the ride are your family and friends.  You won’t be able to in good conscience serve them over processed, pesticide-ridden, GMO, chemistry project “food”.  Your life and health will mean too much to you.  And by default, you will want your loved ones in on the game.  The game is REAL FOOD, brisk physical activity, and spiritual nourishment, a complete mind, body, spirit transformation.

To get yours started, come visit me at JaniceWoody.com.  Ask about how I may serve you some good food for thought to get yourself on the path to an epic lifestyle transformation.  Here’s to your Lifetime Health!